Is Kolkata Out of Love?
~ The Hotstar Out of Love Survey decodes why people cheat in marriages ~
~ 32% respondents from Kolkata believe or think that their partner may cheat on them ~
~ Kolkata ranks high in respondents who are filling to forget the incident ~
National, 9th December 2019: Hotstar in partnership with Mindshare and Unomer recently released an independent research study that seeks to understand India’s view on infidelity. The Hotstar Out of Love survey aims to decode the evolution of married relationships in India and the importance of trust and loyalty between partners. Soon on the heels of Hotstar Specials’ latest show Out of Love that deals with the aftermath of infidelity and the myriad choices that people are faced with, this study tries to decipher the mindset of Indian married individuals across age groups and cities. The study also highlighted some key insights from residents of Kolkata.
57% of Kolkata is INSECURE in marriages
As per the Hotstar Out of Love survey, insecurity in marriages looms over as half of all respondents in India feel the need to pry; with 45% people wanting to check their partner’s phone without their knowledge and 55% people who have already done it. Interestingly, 57% people from Kolkata claim to have checked their partner’s phone. On the other hand, a staggering 32% respondents from Kolkata believe or think that their partner may cheat on them
Actor Soni Razdan said, “I think spying results from insecurity, which usually creeps in when the relationship is young – when you’re too much in love or when you are very passionate about your partner. On the contrary, it’s quite likely for you to feel insecure if you have had a previous experience of your partner cheating on you. You can just sense when your partner is looking the other way. It is a natural human trait. I feel insecurity is part and parcel of any relationship which evens out only much later in life”
Actor Neha Dhupia said, “I come from mindset where I feel that if you have committed to a relationship one hundred percent, and you decide to marry the person, you should live up to it. There is then no need to spy on your partner at all. Spying on your partner stems from places, starting with things like excessive love, and then of course, from men and women who suffer from low self-esteem and insecurity within the relationship.”
Dr. Ramon Llamba – Life Coach, Therapist and Quantum Medicine Doctor said, “We as human beings are naturally driven by behavioural mechanisms called emotional drivers. People who have security and control as their primary driver have this innate desire to feed their emotions and be in control of their environment and feel secure by finding out information. This mechanism at a subconscious level drives them to spy on their partner’s phone or email.”
When faced with inﬁdelity, will Kolkata FORGIVE, FORGET OR FIGHT?
The survey also revealed that 78% Indians will be bold about confronting inﬁdelity. Having said that, Kolkata leads the way with almost one-third i.e. 32% who would choose to forget as opposed to 45% who would forgive and 29% who would fight.
Neha Dhupia added, “Infidelity is subjective to perspective – to each their own. Different people infer it differently and will always react to it in their own ways. While some just cannot compromise and go back to their partner, some, in the hope of their partner coming around, are willing to forgive and forget”
Soni Razdan added, “When it comes to forgiving, people forgive because at the end of the day you’re a human being. Sometimes you forgive because you love the person very much; you just want to be with the person for you think the relationship is more important than those one or two incidences. Sometimes you also forgive to stay, because you maybe in need of financial support for a much more secure future for your children. I think there are myriad reasons why people forgive each other and I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all.”
Dr. Ramon Llamba added, “People choose to forgive because the partner who has been cheated upon makes an emotionally smart decision. At the core, humans forgive because there’s a silent voice that says it’s a natural phenomenon. The next big reason is having a family and they do not want to disrupt their lives by taking any drastic step”
The Out of Love survey by Hotstar in partnership with Mindshare and Unomer was carried out with 1088 married respondents in the age-group on 18-64 years from across Metros and Tier 1 towns with a 50:50 Male: Female ratio. The survey was conducted using digital river sampling and the data is representative of smartphone user population in India.